A couple of weeks ago, I went to an open mic night for poets and songwriters.
Three words:
Not. My. Scene.
(Stick with me through these next few paragraphs – there’s a happy ending)
I “don’t like” artistic, creative people. I don’t. I considered myself a musician when I was younger. I studied music all my life. I went through that “Music Is Life” phase many of us go through. I wrote awful poetry and bad songs and sang through a microphone plugged into a guitar amp in my bedroom.
And now creative types remind me of the sad, lonely, messed up teenager.
I’m very uncomfortable around people who express themselves. Ultimately, I find them narcissistic.
I am fully aware of the irony as I write my blog as a means of expression.
I hated performing in front of people. I knew deep down that I wasn’t really that good. I was terrified of making a fool of myself. I knew how mean I was to the people who weren’t very talented, and my inner critic quickly became the loudest voice in my head.
I grew to dislike music, musicians and the whole “having emotions” thing.
But my friend and sponsor (I’m a sober alcoholic and clean drug addict) is a poet and I wanted to go out and support her as she was performing that night.
It was a small, Ethiopian food place with around 8 tables and a tiny stage. I’d never had Ethiopian food before. It’s not bad, actually.
So, we settled in and one by one these people got up on stage and they did their thing.
They expressed themselves.
And they were all nervous.
Because they were being honest.
That’s what honesty is… It’s being completely open and having the courage to face whatever consequences that brings you. And that is terrifying.
And the consequences… Were awesome.
The great thing about this event was that the audience was made up mostly of creatives, so they had an implicit understanding of the courage it takes to get up there and do your thing, whatever that is.
They weren’t always applauding the song or poem that was being performed, but they were always, without exception, applauding the courage and the honesty of the performer.
I know I was.
For the first time, my inner critic shut up for a little while.
And I got to appreciate the awesomeness of people living life, and doing what they love.
I still find emotional expression awkward and a bit uncomfortable, but it inspired me to be more open myself because even if people don’t appreciate the content of what you say, some of them will appreciate your honesty.